desire: what my kids desire

[topaz]

 redheadedmuse wrote recently about the importance of recognizing and valuing the way people in relationships with you desire you. We often may misread desire as being needy, a drag on our time or energy, an irritation, an interruption of some very important thing we must do right away. But recasting it as desire -- thinking in terms of how these people desire you -- has potentially a lot of power to reframe those emotions in a positive way. We all want to be desired. It may help to remember how many ways it happens, all the time.

Today I'm struck by the way my kids desire to be with me and do things with me.

This ain't small potatoes. Morgan, at 12, is right on the edge of figuring out what dorks his parents are, and once he does, I figure that's going to be game over until he's 35 or so.

It hasn't happened yet, and that's continually fascinating and rewarding for me. He calls to find out when I'll be home from work, and whether it's okay with me for him to watch Doctor Who without me. We play Dungeons and Dragons together every week with friends, and he's decided he wants to start a second campaign with me because he's not getting enough of it. I read to both of them at bedtime every night, and Morgan always wants me to start earlier and read more.

I have to remind myself that any day now, he's going to go all angsty and emo and will be hopelessly nonplussed by my complete uncoolness. For now, I'm just going to live in the moment. My kid still thinks I'm awesome. How great is that?

Comments

[beowabbit]

That’s very very cool.

Morgan, at 12, is right on the edge of figuring out what dorks his parents are, and once he does, I figure that's going to be game over until he's 35 or so.

I never figured that out! I’m in my mid 40s, and silverlibre and ka9sqb still have me fooled. So there’s hope for you yet, if you’re sneaky enough!

[vito-excalibur.livejournal.com]

This is very wise of you.

[blk]

Your kid wants to spend time with you AND with his friends. That's TOTALLY AWESOME.

[kimcob.livejournal.com]

I am currently reading Yes, Your Teen Is Crazy as research for the all too soon arriving future of which you speak:)

[beah.livejournal.com]

That *is* pretty great.

I wonder, is it different depending on the genders of the kids and parents in question? By the time I was 12, my mom and I were on the skids, but I never stopped being a daddy's girl.